madmallard wrote:
brainwashed? I reject this because its condescending and patronising, as tho we have no judgement or control over ourselves...
Dude, you'd be surprised. Not everyone looks at life with the clarity that you & I do. There are people out there that honestly believe that "putting up appearances" is somehow "important". I know personal anecdotes aren't really evidence..but sometimes they contain small grains of reality.
I learned how to live on less when I got divorced, and made the decision to actually pay my child support. At the time (early 1990s), in Georgia..that was between 17-25% of your gross pay-decided by the judge. The judge I got decided on 20% for me. So what happened to the $628 dollars a month I spent?
Did any of it go to a college fund for my daughter? No. (my daughter, now 20 and trying to leave a community college for a "real" one, confirms it..the tank is empty, on her mom's side) Did any of it go into a personal savings account? No. It went for "designer label" clothing for my daughter, it went for the latest & greatest electronics (phones & laptops) that money could buy, and eventually it went for part of the mortgage on the new house when (the ex's words) "..too many blacks moved into our old neighborhood..".
Waste, waste, waste! And all for nothing but the kind of "consumerist" crap Leslie & I were talking about. Throwing away the future for social posturing in the present. Odd thing is..it would have worked, if I hadn't been laid off until 2yrs from now. I've got $7K in the bank, and an additional $4K in my personal stock holdings. If my daughter's successful at getting into the university, I'll spend about $5K on it this year. Next year? Dunno. Depends on how soon I can find another job (not going so well at the moment), and what it will pay.
Apologies in advance, dude..especially about the length of my reply, and the TMI on my personal situation. I just wanted to show that "consumerism" isn't simply a knee-jerk comment that liberals make about the current social environment. There really are people who fall for that E36 M3. I actually pity the ones that aren't personally costing me money..
How can it be a midlife crisis, when I've driven sportscars my entire life?